Updated to include additional information about reinforcement and punishment.
Chances are you’ve corrected your toddler for acting out (“Don’thit!")
Maybe you’ve evenlost your coolafter repeating yourself, oh, more times than you could count.
But how often do you actively let your little one know when she’s doing the right thing?
Experts call this strategy positive reinforcement.
Noticing when your sweetie shines (and letting her know it!)
Here’s how it works, and the benefits you’ll all reap by giving it a try.
What is positive reinforcement?
After all, it likely comes as no surprise to hear that your toddler really loves getting your attention.
(Do you know anyone else who would interrupt you while you’re peeing just to say hi?)
Plus, it gives her (and you!)
a warm, fuzzy feeling.
And praising your child for an inherent quality like being smart doesn’t recognize her actual efforts.
Positive reinforcement examples
What’s the best way to deliver that proverbial pat on the back?
Keep it simple and sweet, and be sure to praise your child’s specific action.
Think: “Great job putting your cars away!”
or “I love when you use your listening ears!”
(That’s not to say you should only hug or kiss your toddler when she’s being good.
Time spent together.Take a break for some sweet one-on-one time where your toddler gets your undivided attention.
Steer clear of food and candy rewards too.
Just plan to phase it out once your child has gotten the hang of the new behavior.
What’s not to like about that?
Those can-do feelings will encourage her to keep trying new things too.
Can encourage good behavior.Positive reinforcement won’t turn your toddler into a perfect angel.
Can reduce battles and stress.Again, not a guarantee, especially at first.
What’s the difference between positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement and punishment?
Once she’s racked up enough stickers, she earns a coveted reward or prize.
so older toddlers may have more success than younger ones.
Pick the reward.Strike a balance between a prize that’s exciting but not over the top.
Make her goal achievable, like four or five stickers equaling the prize.
When she does earn one, get excited about it.
So next time you catch her in the act of being awesome, let her know.
An extra dose of love and praise will make you both feel good.
